Cheat to Win

cake-727854_960_720Okay, so let’s catch up.

A recap. Review. Restatement of facts. Redundantly. Repeatedly. Again.

  • Stay up late talking – SO MUCH TO CATCH UP ON.
  • Visit friends and family and eat amazing food and drink ALL THE WINE.
  • Eat cake. Lots and lots of cake.
  • Go to Ariel Stretch class together cause torture is good for the soul.
  • Do an escape room cause DUH. Hopefully we get out. Hopefully we don’t kill each other in the process. Hopefully our friendship survives.
  • Do something spa like. Probably a massage. Cause MASSAGE.
  • Cracker Barrel. Cause tradition. And pancakes. Real American Pancakes. With all the butter.

Those were the goals, but what have we done so far?

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[trigger warning] What is Trauma or PTSD?

PTSDThis is written ala rumination journalling or free writing where you just write and you don’t think too much about capitalization or spacing or spelling or typos which may or may not be the style this blog becomes for the next few days / weeks while I work some shit out. Also, what ever happened to those monday / tuesday / wednesday daily guide things?

Well, I’m working some shit out. Maybe they’ll come back in a bit – maybe not.

A friend sent me an awesome blog post idea.

Blog topic – how to help someone that doesn’t understand trauma or PTSD to help someone who does..

So there are two parts to that (as I understand it) which is how to help someone who doesn’t understand trauma / ptsd and also how to educate them with what it is so that they can help someone who is recovering.

I usually send people to the spoon theory for what it’s like to have an illness that others can’t see.

But what is it like to have PTSD?

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[trigger warning] Happy Birthday To Me?

superbetterOr “Step One – Self Care”

I recently announced that I’m going to come out of the PTSD closet this Wednesday at Toastmasters Groningen for the capstone project of Toastmasters Competent Communication track.

If you’re in the Groningen area 18 May 2016 around 19:15, we’re meeting at the Launch Cafe. Come on by.

At PyCon Sweden I saw @aspleenic give a lightning talk about MH Prompt:

Prompt is simply a means of encouraging a conversation about mental health at tech conferences and meetups.


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[trigger warning] And In Conclusion

openstackAs I mentioned yesterday, something happened.

It turns out that as soon as I filed the complaint yesterday, OpenStack Foundation reached out to the accused who immediately confirmed he was in the wrong and subsequently emailed me to let me know what happened and that he’d be in touch.

And he was. He agreed that it was offensive and he never meant to hurt or intimidate me and it would never happen again and he apologized.

And I accepted his apology.

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[trigger warning] I Want To Talk About Other Things Instead But…

openstackI was at the major OpenStack Summit super party at the Red Hat sponsored Banger’s pub, having come out of the bathroom and ran into a former colleague going into bathroom.

We hugged. Which is totally fine. I’m okay with hugs that I initiate.

We talked, happy for one another in our new roles / respective companies and then said our good byes with a hug.

But then.

He said, “I could kiss you.”

And before I could react, he grabbed me by the head and planted a wet one right on my mouth.

And then he turned and went to the bathroom.

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Sunday Bloody Sunday

u2Artist: U2
Album: War
Released: 1983

One of U2’s most overtly political songs, its lyrics describe the horror felt by an observer of the Troubles in Northern Ireland, mainly focusing on the Bloody Sunday incident in Derry where British troops shot and killed unarmed civil rights protesters and bystanders who were there to rally against internment (imprisonment without trial), while at the same time rejecting hate and revenge as a response noted in the lyrics, “There’s many lost, but tell me who has won.”

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