Were You Born That Way?

[Dutch Lock Down Day Three Hundred Forty]

Deborah Siegel, gender scholar and mother of boy/girl twins, brings to life key research about the gendering of childhood in the earliest years of life.

Taking us through a personal journey peppered with blunders and epiphanies, she challenges us to move beyond pink and blue and learn something new about gender from society’s smallest experts: our kids.

But first the news:

In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.

Deborah wants us to remember to:

  1. Embrace the purple.
  2. With great power comes great responsibility.
  3. Small change brings big change.
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If You Build It, They Will Come

[Dutch Lock Down Day Three Hundred Thirty Six]

Photo by Jiroe on Unsplash

True to my word, I set up an open source repository, an awesome list of nonbinary resources yesterday morning.


Throughout the day yesterday and today I added the resources I could personally vouch for and, although, there are some blogs / facebook pages which are officially closed down, the data is still relevant, so I still included them.

And I’m kinda proud of it, if I do say so myself.

But first the news:

“Curated”: the contribution / link / book / quote / collaboration has been personal reviewed by the maintainer or contributor

“Awesome”: helpful / inspirational / informative / educational

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If It Doesn’t Exist, Build It

[Dutch Lock Down Day Three Hundred Thirty Five]

I mentioned this briefly in the video I did for The Gender Tag Project – that I went looking for resources for nonbinary people – especially around education / support / close friends – and couldn’t find much.

Therefore, I’m going to compile an awesome list of nonbinary resources.

And, because it’s how I roll, I’m going to start it live on my open source stream.

But first the news:

An awesome list is a list of awesome things curated by the community. There are awesome lists about everything from CLI applications to fantasy books.

The main repository serves as a curated list of awesome lists.

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And Now We’re Healing

[Dutch Lock Down Day Three Hundred Thirty One]

I had a massive misunderstanding with a close friend.

Around being nonbinary.

Around using the they / them pronouns.

And we didn’t listen to one another for days.

And then we finally did.

But first the news:

We shouted.
We said things we both regret.
We told the truth.
We fought.
We pushed back.
We lashed out.

And then we listened.

And now we’re healing.


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The Gender Tag Project

[Dutch Lock Down Day Three Hundred Twenty Nine]

The Gender Tag Project is a YouTube “tag” video that encourages individuals to answer a set of ten prompts relating to their experience with gender in the form of a YouTube video.

But first the news:

The Gender Tag is a project for everyone. Gender is a part of the human experience, and every single person experiences gender in a different way. The Gender Tag prompts cover topics that range from gender identity to gender expression and gender roles, and are aimed at creating conversation about each individual’s own understanding of gender.

The goal of The Gender Tag Project is to compile videos from trans and cis people, nonbinary people, queer and straight people, men and women and people of other genders, people from different cultures and classes, with different ability statuses, different romantic orientations and so on. The more different types of people that contribute to The Gender Tag Project, the more diverse and more complete the experience of viewing it will be. Everyone lives a gendered life, and not everyone is talking about how that affects their lives and informs their views – that needs to change.

The Gender Tag prompts are both general and broad, giving participants final authority over where they take the answers. For many people, the performance of gender is something they know and understand well, and think about every single day; for others, this might be their first time thinking about it in an active way. The Gender Tag project hopes to make conversation about gender more accessible, and to provide information and education for those who may not fully understand how others experience gender, or how gender affects the world we live in.

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