Hello. My Name Is Rain. And I Am GenderFluid.

pride-heartYesterday was National Coming Out Day and while it’s not something I’m secretive about, because I am an apparent female married to a cis male, many people assume I am a straight woman.

I had conversations with my mother and aunt about sexuality when I was nine ish that they believed people are sexual and that sexuality isn’t binary, but more like on a sliding scale and that people are more heterosexual or more homosexual, but not completely one or the other.

That resonated with me so much that I immediately adopted the label bi-sexual.

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[trigger warning] “Smile.”

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I will admit that I’ve lived in Europe so long that I often forget what it’s like to be cat called in public. As opposed to a pub.

Where it’s acceptable?

No. Wrong. Still no bueno.

But still.

Back to the point.

I went to see Niagara Falls today. And walk to Canada. And eat poutine.


And I did.


But also an employee of Niagara Falls Maid of the Mist boat tour company told me to “Smile” as he passed me.

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Safety Lights Are For Dudes

Kate-McKinnon-as-Jillian-Holtzmann-in-Ghostbusters-kate-mckinnon-39375605-200-200I saw Ghostbusters this past weekend and added yet another strong amazing female character to the list of People I Want To Be When I Grow Up.

Jillian Holtzman, Ghostbusters
There are SO MANY REASONS I am nuts about this character. I’m gonna start with she has a PhD and builds AMAZING THINGS. So you know she’s #BRILLIANT. And the things she makes? And then her hair? And then her wardrobe including those yellow glasses? And then her attitude? And then her LINES? And then when she pulls out the pistols and kills EVERYTHING?

Go watch the movie. Drool a lot.

Want to be her.

I’m seriously considering going blonde.

Definitely getting a pair of those glasses.

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Silence Does Not Equal Consent

photo-1431037242647-4c2c27cb5bb1i was writing a brilliantly witty and epic editorial on negative versus positive impact; about how a compliment is usually brushed off with a humble thank you while a criticism is taken to heart and mulled over for days, weeks, or months.

and then.

this article popped into my newsfeed titled “How a Cuddle Party Changed the Way I View Consent”. and within that article, a link to 7 things you might think are consent that aren’t.

it’s an excellent read – i’ll wait while you take a gander.


*waits longer*

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[trigger warning] I am Emily Doe

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Yesterday I made it to the doctor and had a conversation about why I need a referral to PsyQ. The last time I needed a referral, it was to the crisisdienst and I didn’t make it clear enough (I was being American, I didn’t realize communication was difficult) that the situation was dire.

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